A Hidden History of Policing Female Pleasure (And Power)


A Hidden History of Policing Female Pleasure (And Power) from The Establishment 

Check out this excerpt from my new book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault (Mango 2019) in The Establishment! It’s all about the power of desire, the courage to heal, and the magic of sexual healing. Bonus, you get to learn about witches and see some of the gorgeous photos of me by Andi McLeish.

Pleasure has always been policed, in some way or another, in cultures across the world. That’s because pleasure is, in a way, a source of resistance.

In her book Vagina, Naomi Wolf argues that women have a special relationship with pleasure in that, when we have the right kind of it, we are feisty, powerful, and strong, and when we don’t, we can lose our will to stand up for ourselves. The way our pelvic nerves translate pleasure from our sexual experiences to our brains boosts the hormones that make us strong and connected and dampen our vulnerability to depression and lethargy.” (Keep reading…

 

Interview with LadyBossBlogger


An Interview with LadyBossBlogger 

 

 

 

 

I was recently interviewed by Elaine Rau, the LadyBossBlogger, who focuses on female entrepreneurs. We talked about my new book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault (Mango), which is about healing trauma and coming back to desire after sexual abuse or assault, as well as what it’s like to run a small business and which women are role models for me (my mom is one of them!) In this interview, you’ll learn:

  1. How this writer and yoga studio owner found the confidence to go her own way and make her business work for her
  2. The one course you can take to connect your self-reflective practices to the moon phases whenever you need them
  3. How her new book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault (Mango 2019) can help empower survivors and their loved ones to live rich and joyful lives after trauma
  4. What books to read that will teach you about how the nervous system holds trauma, how relationships work, and how to manage your finances without worry
  5. The one piece of advice that will empower you in your business and help you move forward with what you really want to do
  6. Where to find guided meditations and reflective practices to help you empower yourself to connect to your body, your power, and your pleasure in everyday life

Read more here: https://ladybossblogger.com/julie-peters-helps-her-clients-connect-to-their-bodies-their-power-their-pleasure-and-their-own-ability-to-heal/

The Most Fun Book About Sexual Assault You’ve Ever Read


 

My new book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault (Mango 2019) comes out this April, which also happens to be Sexual Assault Awareness Month. I wrote this book as a sort of tongue-in-cheek how-to guide for surviving sexual assault. I wish I’d had this kind of guide when I was going through it myself. […] Read more at NFReads.com: https://www.nfreads.com/want-by-julie-peters/

Support me and this book: pre-order it from Amazon now. It’s the best way to tell the algorithm that this book matters and will help more survivors and supporters to find it and access this resource. https://amzn.to/2UTKAO5

Sneak Peek: An Excerpt from WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault


How Yoga kept me from Recovering from Sexual Assault:

An Excerpt from WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault (Mango, April 2019) 

Yoga has been a major tool for helping me learn how to feel. Unlike most other forms of exercise, yoga is based on the idea of mindfulness: get into a pose and think about how it makes you feel. It was in yoga that I learned that my emotions are absolutely connected to my physical flesh. Yoga taught me that I could observe the emotions that were arising, and, rather than react to them, embrace them and let them be present and flow in their own way. Yoga taught me how to be okay with being uncomfortable, and how movement and breath could help me calm down, slow down, and, in many cases, ease my physical pain.

Yoga also, however, thoroughly f*cked me up. ….

Read more of this special excerpt from my new book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault (Mango Media, April 2019) at Elephant Journal: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2019/03/how-yoga-kept-me-from-recovering-from-sexual-assault-julie-peters/

Want to support me and help get this book in front of more people? The best thing you can do right now is preorder it on Amazon. It helps the website know that people are interested in this book and boosts the rankings, which means more people will see it! Do it now: https://amzn.to/2UTKAO5

My New Book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault


WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault

Huge news! My new book WANT: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion and Pleasure (Mango Media April 2019) is now available for preorder on Amazon! I am so excited to finally be able to announce that this book exists and it is almost ready to be read by you.
This is the most vulnerable, closest-to-my-heart thing I’ve ever written and I am incredibly excited and just a little bit terrified to have it out there. It is my story, my experience of sexual assault, and everything I learned in the process of recovery. It’s meant to be accessible for anyone who has been through something similar as well as for anyone who is curious about what the recovery experience might be like. I want you to sit down with this book and feel like you and I are talking over a long glass of wine and having a great time doing it.
If you want to support me and this book and help other survivors find it, the best thing you can do is preorder it now (and eventually write an Amazon review!). That helps Amazon know that this is a book people should read! And, of course, tell all your friends. Here is the link to more info and to preorder: https://amzn.to/2NOmLFJ
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Moon Goddess Meditations

If you are in a place where you’d like to make a commitment to your own self-love and self-care, this online course can give you a way to do it. Each night, you’ll learn a little bit about the Tantric moon goddess who presides over that particular phase of the moon, meditate on her themes and ideas, and journal with a specific prompt for that night. Start on the night of the new moon and practice every night until the full moon.

The meditations are simple, around 10 minutes each, and the recommendation is to journal for about five minutes. You can download and keep the course forever, so it’s something you can come back to again and again when you want to reconnect to your desire, your inner power, and your capacity to heal.

For a limited time, register at Spirituality and Health and enter the coupon code MOON for 15% off at checkout. Details and register: https://courses.spiritualityhealth.com/p/moon-goddess-meditations

A Love Commitment for Valentine’s Day


A Love Commitment for Valentine’s Day (With or Without a Partner) 

February is a month where we are inundated with messages about romantic love. Valentine’s Day can be stressful because the pressure is on to get a romantic date and make it all perfect. It’s a time to celebrate love, but many of us simply end up feeling like whatever we have is not enough—whether or not we’re in a relationship. (….keep reading)

A Guided Meditation for Self Love

In this Valentine’s month, it’s very important to spend some time loving ourselves. Honoring the relationship with our own hearts goes a long way towards supporting our relationships with other people, whether or not we’re in a partnership. This simple meditation focuses our intention on loving all parts of ourselves no matter what.  (…do the meditation here) 

Imagination (Jan 2019)


Imagination

looking back to look forward: Julie by @catherinebyrdy

As I write this, the moon is getting ready to bleed. She is low on the horizon, a heavy super moon, and will be slowly turning red in a few hours. I have been following the blood moons closely over the last couple of years and try to do my best to at least catch a glimpse of them when I can. Full moons are always a time of letting go, and eclipses (especially witchy blood-red ones) are especially powerful.

Lately I’ve been thinking about the ways in which I believe in myself (or don’t). Because in order to believe in some better kind of life, I need the right self to believe in. The writer and yoga teacher Michael Stone has said that one of our biggest problems as human beings is that we get so stuck in our narratives of who we think we are, what we think we can do, and what we expect our relationships to look like that we don’t open our eyes to what’s actually happening. “I really think that addiction at bottom is an addiction to a narrative,” Stone has said, “and one sign that there’s addiction to a narrative is that your imagination isn’t there.” Lately, I think, I have been lacking in that particular type of imagination. I can’t quite conceptualize of myself living a different kind of life. I see myself on a certain track that looks a lot like the one I’ve been on, and it’s hard to see any other options on the horizon.

But that’s not enough for me. I know I want more for myself. It’s an old saying that the first step to doing a yoga pose is imagining yourself doing it. Why wouldn’t that be true for life as well?

Imagining is easier if you put your face in a blanket.

So I’ve been sitting with these possible other future selves, trying to birth them into conceptual existence. And on this blood moon I’ve also been thinking about the selves I’ve been before that might be standing in the way of that feat of imagination.

I think of the self that tried to protect me after my sexual assault, wrapping me in wrong relationships and numbness. I want to thank her for her service—she did protect me. But I don’t think I need her protection as much as I used to, and now she’s holding me back from having different kinds of experiences. I think of the self that refused to sit still, refused to spend any time alone with herself, ran around chasing drama, because being alone with herself was too painful. That self brought a lot of fun, exciting experiences into my life, but a lot of anxiety, too, and now I’m much more curious about what swims in the still pond. I think of the self that is still astonished when I have any kind of success and shrinks away when people want to read my work or hear what I have to say. She was trying to protect me from being hurt, too, but there are things I need to say that I want to be heard now, and I believe (I want to believe) I will be strong enough to handle whatever happens if (and when) not everyone likes what I have to say.

This blood moon, I want to hold these selves tenderly in my hands, thank them, and say goodbye to them. I want to make space in my mind to be able to imagine new selves that can go on the adventures of vulnerability, connection, stillness, and speaking up that I want to call into my life. I want to imagine myself in a multitude of futures, letting all those possible worlds exist in my mind side by side so that I’m not stuck on one track simply because it’s the only one I can think of. Then I might just have a new self I want to believe in.


Want to connect to the moon with a nightly practice? Try my course Moon Goddess Meditations, where you’ll get a guided meditation and a journaling prompt every night for a moon cycle. Download and practice at your own pace. Details and register: https://courses.spiritualityhealth.com/p/moon-goddess-meditations

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Moon Goddess Meditations for Solstice

This Thursday, December 6th, 2018, we will have a new moon which will cycle up to the winter solstice on December 21st and the full moon on the day after. Solstice is a powerful time to consider what we want to let go of from the last solar year and what we want to call into our lives in the future.
Every moon cycle offers us a chance to do this kind of thinking, and the Tantric moon goddesses can take us on a journey with the waxing moon to consider what we really want, what our relationships mean to us, and how we want to be connected in the world.
In this 16-night course, you’ll meet a different moon goddess every night and you’ll do a short guided meditation (5-10 minutes) on her symbols and meaning. Then you are invited to journal on the topic. You can do the meditations in the morning, at night, whatever works for you, and follow the cycling of the moon. You’ll be able to download the audio meditations and journaling prompts to your device when you Join me!
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Moon Goddess Meditations+Stress Management Skills for Real Life online courses!




Good news!

You can now sign up for an annual membership with Spirituality and Health magazine and get access to both my Moon Goddess Meditations and Stress Management Skills for Real Life courses along with all the other online courses S&H is offering, past and future. Next year I will have another course available on mindfulness in relationships as well!

Courses come out once a month or so and you can do them all at your own pace.

Register for the annual membership at the early bird price (until October 30th) here: https://courses.spiritualityhealth.com

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